If you were intending to spend money in a business relationship with another person, it’s quite improbable that you’d do so without first conducting some research into his abilities and honesty. Why therefore enter into a marriage union blindly, without first learning about the physical, mental, and emotional needs and demands of the person with whom you have chosen to share your life?
A certain amount of faith is required in any human relationship. However, being aware of and understanding another’s shortcoming can lead to a deep mutual bond. When faced with tolerance and a sense of humor, human flaws have a way of bringing people together. To appreciate your future spouse intelligently, you must be aware of the reasons of weakness and strength, as well as the hidden motives within the inner self.
Many blunders and heartbreak could be avoided if every couple considering marriage had their handwriting analyzed by a professional. The dispassionate diagnosis, which is not tainted by emotional involvement, may reveal some startling truths. But it’s better to know the worst case scenario before getting married than afterward. Furthermore, it provides an opportunity to assist one another in overcoming flaws, which may help to avoid future sadness and misunderstanding.
During the courtship period, when the aspect of chase encourages the man to be at his best in order to win the lady of his choosing, and when she is also on alert and on her best behavior so as not to derail him from his course of pursuit, flaws are buried by niceties and considerations. However, after marriage, when the sharp edge of desire has faded due to fulfillment and the necessity to deal with practical difficulties, Prince Charming becomes human, the curtain of romantic colors is pulled away, and both are frequently revealed in their genuine characteristics. You can still be passionate while also being aware of your partner’s flaws. The first necessary of marriage is to be honest with each other, because mutual confidence is built on this foundation. Being “touchy” or “supersensitive” invites injuries, which can frequently be avoided if the motivation is understood. Having a broad sense of humor can save both parties a lot of unnecessary heartache, especially when they have to live in close quarters. This is typically formed with vision maturity, and the most successful marriages are those between two persons who are mature in their outlook on life and willing to “give and take.”
When I examine the handwriting of potential marriage partners for analysis, the first thing I look for is physical compatibility. If one person’s writing contains strong sex drives but the other’s does not, I provide a cautionary comment, unless the latter’s writing contains compensatory variables. Though sex attraction is not the only factor to consider, it is the magnetic force that draws two people together and serves as a foundation for a long-term relationship. It is true that the first attraction between two healthy persons of opposite sex is usually always based on sexual desire, even if it is not always visible, perhaps even buried under the pretense of platonic relationship, unconscious in either or both persons.
Of course, there are exceptions to the norm that physical compatibility is the most important factor to consider. The desire for companionship or financial security may be stronger among elderly persons. Women and men have been drawn to one other for the financial benefits that a reciprocal partnership might provide. But we’re mostly concerned with the normal, healthy approach to marriage, which is founded on men and women’s need for each other.
Animated, free-flowing lettering that leans to the right and has rhythmic extended lower loops indicates clearly strong sex desires. When these appear in a vertical hand, the sexual desire is powerful but restrained by the mind, allowing it to be diluted by reason. Such structures, which are present in both handwritings and have accompanying harmonious qualities, ensure reciprocal sexual attraction and have a high potential for achieving sexual harmony. Other characteristics, however, must be present in both handwritings in order to create mutual understanding; the more interests two people share, the more likely they are to form a lasting understanding link.
As we grow older, our values and tastes change. With our aesthetic development, our bodily desires may become restrained. Even our ideals, which have been realized to some extent, may be supplanted by others. There is a prospect for sustained mutual happiness if two people marry before either of them has developed. However, two handwritings that were compatible before marriage may exhibit considerable variances five years later, indicating true causes for discord.
Marriage may awaken in women some instincts that were dormant prior to the event, yet it might be a deterrent to some men. Marriage may be comforting to a restless, anxious woman, but it can be unsettling to a man who was carefree and careless prior to marriage. The emotional and financial duties that come with marriage take a toll, especially since we are all naturally polygamous; as a result, marriage necessitates constant changes. It requires tolerance, cooperation, self-control, sociability, and sympathy, and the more of these qualities two people share, the more likely they are to achieve lasting happiness in marriage.
Determine Whether Extrovert or Introvert
Two persons must be able to see and understand each other’s point of view in order to develop mutual harmony. When both people write from the same perspective, this is relatively simple. It’s self-evident that two persons with outward-flowing energy (slants in handwriting) will have more in common in their outlook on life than two people who penned backhand and rightward-leaning script.
If the corresponding slant angles of their handwriting are relatively comparable, there can be compatibility between any two people attracted to one other. When one person writes leftward and the other rightward, however, compatibility is rare. In such cases, their outlook on life, their perspectives, are diametrically opposed, and they would have far too little in common emotionally, temperamentally, and in terms of shared interests to sustain a marriage.
Too often, such polar opposites are attracted to one another. Extroverts are drawn to the distant, reserved introvert because they sense a mystery in him and hope to draw him out of his shell. However, they frequently discover that the twig has been twisted for far too long, and they give up in despair, looking for someone who is more compatible with their outgoing personalities.
Determine Tolerance and Harmonious Traits
Because human people are so diverse and dynamic, and are often influenced by intimate encounters with one another, tolerance – the acceptance of each other’s flaws – is a crucial component of any marriage. (It’s much better if you accept them.) It is simple to be tolerant when both share the same outlook on life, seeing it through the same or similar lenses, as it were, and when they are physically compatible. However, our early training often instills prejudices in us, leading to intolerance later in life. If we are to get along with individuals who are not like us, we must temper or abandon this attitude.
It’s tough to accept attitudes and views that are different from our own, but with logic, knowledge, and empathy, we can learn to understand her man’s perspective. Tolerance is frequently difficult to achieve when an aesthetically responsive person’s senses are offended, since, as Emerson wisely put it, “the senses are tyrannical at short distances.”
To overcome this, you’ll need a generous spirit and a philosophical mindset. We find extensive tolerance in handwritings that show signs of altruism and adaptation (the g created like an 8, the stern of the y made with a return stroke instead of a loop), as well as social traits. And such indicators point to a level of vision development. Nature’s generosity, which is necessary for the development of tolerance, manifests itself in large spacing between letters in words and between words, wide margins, and open formations of the minuscule a and o. These may be complemented by an open capital D formation, which denotes openheartedness.
These formations are unusual in a very angular script, with the angularity indicating precision and intolerance. As a result, the more rounded the writing is, the more evidence of generosity, malleable emotions, expansiveness, and an instinctive sympathy that leads to tolerance may be found.
Women, noting that many men are still infants to some extent, would benefit from learning the skill of flattery, if only to conceal the man’s flaws. He will be apprehensive about leaving an environment—or a relationship—in which he is regarded as superior. This is crucial in the development of mutual tolerance, and it may be applied to both men and women with equal success. When it comes to a relationship as intimate as marriage, prudent and true flattery can be a soothing ointment for terrible pains or disapproval. The level of flattery or encouragement given will vary depending on the individual’s need for self-esteem and confidence.
Harsh criticism can be extremely damaging, causing a wedge between two people who may be truly in love. When criticizing your partner, exercise caution, and if necessary, temper your criticism with care and affection. Sharp criticism is like to wielding a knife, and few people have the kind of hide that can withstand it.
It is necessary to consider one’s ideals and interests. If the male prefers alone, the lady should find something to occupy her time during these times. Though she may be giving and emotionally submissive when her husband shows attentiveness, the woman’s writing should show evidence of self-sufficiency. If the man is pleasure-loving, responsive to stimulation, the woman’s writing should show some adaptability, or the capacity to be stimulating. If she is conscious that she lacks such resources, she should tolerate the aspects of his nature that she cannot satisfy. Of course, this assumes that his temperament does not drive him down irresponsible paths that need her to make constant changes. Women, on the other hand, are expected to make the most modifications in marriage. And if they recognize that marriage is primarily their forte and protection, they will understand and accept this.
Tolerance entails the ability to laugh at oneself in the face of adversity. It needs a conscious effort to suppress any urge for competition with one’s partner; it necessitates being polite, unpossessive, and respectful of the other’s rights.
Tolerance and humor are more likely to exist in the more enlightened person—where emotions are brought to the light of reason, where broadmindedness overcomes biases. “Life is a comedy for those who think; a tragedy for those who feel,” as the saying goes. Such a philosophic approach and generosity of vision will be reflected in handwriting. It’s also worth remembering that givers (extroverts) are more likely to be tolerant than takers (introverts).
True introverts should not, and almost never do, marry. When introverts marry, there is rarely a fusing of emotional feelings that binds them together, although they may not feel the necessity. Common interests, whether artistic or intellectual, have the ability to bring people together. Such a relationship has the potential to last, because there is no risk of over-familiarity, which can create resentment and contempt for discovered flaws in many cases.
An introvert married to an extrovert, on the other hand, invites discord from the start. It will be a give-and-take relationship, with the extrovert doing the giving and the introvert doing the receiving, producing anger in one for the other’s lack of response.
Humor-Indispensable in Marriage
Humor, according to a well-known Viennese psychiatrist, is a “weapon of supremacy.” When there is a clear confrontation, a weapon like this can help to break the tension, but it must be wielded with skill and dexterity. It’s a rare trait, but it can be cultivated. When used correctly, humor can be the saving grace of a relationship where other commonalities are lacking. It is necessary for a happy marriage.
The ability to communicate laughter in all of its hues and expressions can be seen in a variety of ways in handwriting. Humor encompasses a wide spectrum of styles, from boisterous humor to subtle, critical wit. When two persons have ego conflicts, cunning, sarcasm, and acute wit can be used to sharpen the weapon of humor. When two people are competing for wittiness, each will try to outshine the other, and the situation might get tense.
Sarcasm is revealed in handwriting by lancelike forms in t bars and single downstrokes of the y and g. When sarcasm is combined with a touch of pity, the result can be humorous but not harsh remarks. The impulse to smooth the harsh edges often manifests itself in roundness or charity (the rightward turn of the downstroke on the y ). Unskilled use of humor has the potential to destroy a relationship. (A person with intuition may be able to tell when he has gone too far.) When used frequently, sarcasm—which is normally part of a keen critical faculty—can erode mutual trust over time. It needs to have the balancing factors of kindness and judgment, or it will become truly destructive.
Uncharitable, Exacting, Narrow-Minded, Humorless People
Exacting, efficient people with a tight, angular touch and a sense of justice are frequently devoid of humor. They are always concerned about getting their fair share in all of their interactions with others. The Mosaic Law (“an Eye for an Eye”) is an important rite for them. They feel compelled to repay in kind; they take themselves seriously, are frequently self-righteous, and can be pontifical or pompous at times. They are the hypersensitive individuals who frequently detect pain where none is intended. They have a hard time projecting their imagination into the thoughts and needs of others, typically because they live in their own small, caulked-in world. They often live by rules, judging others who cross their paths by the same standard; their attitudes are rigid, and they are unforgiving of those who may have committed even slight transgressions. They find it difficult to see a joke because they believe it is aimed at them. They despise people who find humor in everyday life. What exactly is there to guffaw about? They are perplexed.
Such a lack of humor is associated with intolerance and is typically observed in persons who are excessively self-centered. They won’t even share humor because sharing anything is tough for them. Such people’s handwriting is frequently angular and cramped, often tightly closed, with the Words closely placed together, and no margins on both the left and right sides. These are persons who are repressed, inhibited, single-minded in their beliefs, and intolerant of anyone who disagree with them. They are frequently as stingy with their money as they are with their feelings.
The Bad-Tempered Person
Temper is a type of energy that is directed in a negative direction. When a person is denied the normal expression of his emotional urges (whether in childhood or later), resentment or rage can result. Adults may have temper tantrums in the same way that children did, but they are better able to rationalize them as adults. Frustration is frequently at the foundation of rage, and in many cases, an explosive release can help to clear the air. (Perhaps the guy who erupts on rare times is normally pleasant.) This ability to let off steam is one way for an extrovert to get rid of surplus energy, which is not difficult to achieve. However, because the introvert’s energies flow inward, he has already established a pattern of bitterness and vindictiveness, and when his control fails, he explodes.